I have a friend who is exceptionally gifted at connecting with people. It is quite inspirational to see him in a room with new people; he is always laughing, and building real relationships from nothing. He’ll meet them, then he’ll organise a Skype date with them, or meet them for coffee, and suddenly he’s build up amazing connections and has real chemistry with a broad range of people who will happily help him with whatever he is doing if they can.
When we look at tasks we want to complete, ideas we want to see realised, or ambitions we want to achieve we think about a number of things. We might look at the resources we have in terms of knowledge, practice, assets, and even people. But do we ask whether we have the necessary chemistry with others to achieve what we’re hoping for?
Sometimes we have great, even inspired ideas, but without relational capital we struggle to get them off the ground. A magnetic, charismatic individual, whom others trust and are drawn to, will often take things further than someone who is working just as hard but does not have that same chemistry with people.
As leaders we want to move people from one place to another. That might be maximising people’s potential as a manager, helping people understand new things as a teacher, convincing people to buy our products as a creator, or encouraging people to take a step closer in faith as a Christian. If we placed more emphasis on connecting with people, and building chemistry, then we would probably take more people with us. This isn’t at the expense of competency, but is an essential ingredient for leaders.
As our chemistry grows, our influence will grow too. The better we know people, the better we can lead. If we have chemistry with others we can take on the world together.
In Luke 2:52 we read that “Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man.” So even Jesus needed to grow in magnetism and chemistry with others. If Jesus needed to grow in his natural chemistry with people, surely we could too.
Are there things that we could do to improve our chemistry with others? Are we intentional about connecting well? Or are we so task focussed that we forget the importance of building chemistry with people?
What one thing could you do today to improve your chemistry with others?
We want to help leaders at LCL to grow in their connection and chemistry with others; to be trusted magnetic influencers wherever they are.
By Joel Sales, LCL Chaplain